Parents,

I would like to start by telling you all that I appreciate your passion and dedication to this team and your children. It is a huge commitment to travel to these games, tournaments, and bringing your kids to and from practice. It is also a major task for you to deal with the up and down emotions your daughters have revolving around soccer.

I know sometimes I can be a very tough coach. That being said please do not take what I am about to say personal because it is not intended to upset anyone or call anyone out.

I have heard from multiple sources from the team we played last night and from other sources about our parents getting a bit out of hand. I am sorry I was unable to coach at our last game and I heard how ugly it was. I heard the ref let the game get completely out of hand which in turn sparked an outcry of emotion and inevitably ended with one of our players getting a concussion.

Calling the ref names does not help us win even if they are terrible. It ultimately hurts the girls because they take away a negative attitude from the field. Poor refereeing is always going to happen and we have to rise above it and just beat teams.

I have really been working with the girls on how to win with class and how to lose with class. If you noticed at last weekend’s tournament, no one cried or pouted when we lost in the final. Their heads remained high. I implore you to think of what you say or yell. It can affect the players on the field.

I know I am not perfect and you are probably reading this calling me a hypocrite but let me yell at the ref. Let me be the martyr and get kicked out. I would rather us three coaches give it to the ref when necessary than to have 30 parents yelling at the ref the entire game.

Player safety is my hot button issue and will always be. If at any time I feel like our girls are in danger and the ref can’t control the game I will pull our girls off the field, get my player cards, and then chew the refs head off. We will not risk their health to play a game.